The mental effects of starting something new

For some of us, it brings with it a thrill. For others, it’s terrifying and demands a lion-sized courage. It is something that we have encountered numerous times before: starting something new.

It can be daunting to follow the road toward the many reactions that accompany newness: uncertainty, unpredictability, anxiety, excitement, eagerness, joy, anticipation. Our emotions may feel tornadic as we try to make sense of them colliding from moment to moment. And yet it feels as though we haven’t gotten “better” at it despite the practice we have had in starting something new.

But that is one thing to remind yourself: you have done this before. Each day, in fact, you will encounter something new.

Being “good” at this may not mean that it is comfortable. If you can, give yourself permission to observe this with awe, almost as if you are entering a new, colorful landscape.

You are adapting and incorporating a larger world than you previously knew. Growth is amazing… and painful.

Sometimes it feels easier to start something new than other times.Typically it’s “easier” when we have chosen it or it is something we are interested in doing. Sometimes, it is harder because whatever is new isn’t wanted and we are swept away suddenly by this new thing. So perhaps you can search for the purpose of this newness, especially if it is unwanted.

What are you learning? In what ways have you grown through this new experience? What has it affirmed? Are you willing to search for the purpose or meaning in this new experience? How do you make this new thing like coming home?

If you find yourself dreading starting something new, that’s okay. That’s normal. You have absolutely every reason to feel the way you do. One way you might make it more tolerable is to take small steps. Just one step, or skip, forward toward your destination. If you can, find ways to make it fun along the way. Remember, you might not like the new thing immediately and it might take some getting used to before you like it.

It’s also worth noting that you aren’t alone in experiencing new things. You are surrounded by people who are both encountering new things and who have encountered new things before.

They may be just as hesitant or afraid on this journey of what is ahead. It’s okay to lean on them for a shared experience or advice about how to navigate the confusion of the “new.”

If you choose to share with others about your feelings, make sure you let them know what you need from them (courage, heart, knowledge) before seeking their input; that way you can feel comforted and supported in the way you need.

No matter how you encounter newness, you are not alone. I know it may be hard right now, you may need a ton of courage, and it will likely get easier (but knowing that rarely makes it better in the moment). You are strong (no matter how you feel right now) and can find your way through.

You have many people (some you might not know yet) who are cheering you on and are here for you if, and when, you need us. You can do it and we believe in you!

If you need some support, come see us at the Well-Being Center’s Open House at CSB on Sept. 25th for prizes, tours, and treats… oh my!